Life Is Like A Mini Film Sequence Of The Now by Adrianna Pearce

Maybe it is my overactive imagination or my film school training, but sometimes I like to think of moments in time with my children as mini film sequences of the now. Like an old-style film reel flickering through the memories, moments upon moments in time, building up to create a full and rich film narrative.

How wonderful it is to think these days of our lives, and small moments could be memories that children store up and draw upon many years later. Some of my earliest childhood memories aren’t grand adventures but the in-between moments.

We all have them, the flicker of memory that makes you smile. For me, one of my earliest memories was watching my mum climb into my cot with me, laughing and playing. I wonder what it was about this specific day, or occurrence that made my brain store this for the future, and what memories are your children storing? What narrative of you and their childhood are they building in their head? What’s their film story?

It could be the most simple moment that happened, like when you decided all the house chores and emails could wait and you spontaneously dressed up as a half-fairy half-dinosaur, (because random kids costumes, right?) and roared around the house, chasing the kids, seeing their smiles and laughter is priceless, this 15 minutes out of your busyness would mean the world to them in that moment. A beautiful memory, that didn’t need to cost a cent, just a few moments of you and your time, and a wonderful feeling to be totally present in the moment.

It is always so cute to see those primary school activities, where the teacher asks the child to describe mummy, or to say “what you like about your mum”...whilst often comical, (I’ll ever forget my friends’ little boy listing her mum’s favorite drink as a G&T!), but the perception of how you think your children see you and how they actually see you if often vastly different.

Yes, it is about their cognitive ability at that age, but this is still a true reflection of their honest perception, their true essence of reality at that moment in time.

It got me thinking how all of our mini sequences of the now add up to shape and influence these little humans. What are you projecting onto them day in and day out? What feelings, themes, and energy are going on, that they are absorbing over and over to become their reality? It is interesting to think that perception is yours, but the reality is theirs. You perceive how they are interpreting you, or how they are feeling through your eyes, your brain, your lens. Although they are living it exactly how they are feeling and experiencing it, in its truest form.

Amongst the toys on the floor, the tantrums, the laughs, the tears, the cold coffees, and all the visits to the toilet, try to take stock of these everyday small moments (and sometimes mundane moments) that are actually really important aspects making up your life and shaping the memories of your child. Embrace the now, be in your world, in your moment, with the resources and capabilities you have in front of you. Your children will love the most simplest of moments, and the grandeur ones, when they happen. Of course, Disneyland is amazing, and the pinnacle of childhood fun, but chances are they may not even remember that, but they remember that time you were baking and had flour all over your face and in fits of laughter. What a perfect film sequence, a mini-sequence of the now. How will your film play out?

Adrianna Pearce is a mum to two children, a dreamer and an ocean and coffee lover. Born at 24.5 weeks gestation, she lives by a philosophy of gratitude and intention that propels her forward to help others and to live with purpose. She Co-founds a Not for Profit in Adelaide, that connects people for friendship across generations www.uniity.com.au Adrianna is also passionate about branding that gets to the essence of people’s purpose in business with her consultancy Muse Creative. On the weekend you will find her exploring South Australia with her family. Follow her family adventures @gypsyheartadventures